We are all excellent Movie Stars!!

After years of indulging into psychology and spirituality, I finally have learned one thing – our state and emotion affect our capability and performance.

I sometimes enjoy watching soccer and it is always unpredictable!! A team may lose badly during the first half of the game. The most respectable attitude is that the team can maintain the up beat spirit to have won the second half of the game. Thus, no matter what happen a moment ago, they can drop fear and failure immediately to move forward to achieve their dream and passion.

But then how? How do we always maintain that kind of ‘never say die’ spirit? How do we overcome failure and turn it around into excellence immediately?

This is like how a famous celebrity can make you cry in the movie even though you knew it is not real? How do they fight in the movie that have stirred your emotion for hours? How? How an award-winning star can be so influential that you could associate him as a mafia? Or a romance idol? How to do that? What we can learn from them?

Many of us have forgotten that we could bring up the state that we want at anytime. It can be as easy as bring back a sweet memory when you face a challenge or to behave like someone when it is needed.

Remember the time when we were still playing dolls, princess, or cooking in the kitchen? Or play soldiers in the war for boys, Star Wars, Transformer, Astro Boy…? We were so good at it that we could simulate almost everything from making the sound, the way we walk, the way we talk, the way we behave, …. The more we played, the more creative we were at being in the state of the character. At that time, we could even bring back the positive emotion instantly! We could fell down laughing for no reason!!

We enjoyed that, didn’t we? We did pretty well, didn’t we? What happen to us now? Forgotten on the how to become a movie star? Forgotten on how to laugh over silly things that we did? Hahaha……

In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), we learn:
‘There is no unresouceful people, there is only unresourceful state’

It is still a choice!

There are times we knew in side, there is a decision to be made for a change. Yet we still drag the issue along while we walk. It could be the doubt not significant enough for us to make the change, yet the ‘doubt’ keeps coming into our quiet mind. It is just like months before the wedding day. There are a few who have this doubt that they may not have made the right decision. However, the calling of wanting to meet expectations pressing in as though it is a self inflicted conflict. And with the fear of ‘loosing out’ and ‘being alone’ stepping in to haunt especially during festive seasons.

To some it is just a minor dilemma, whether to follow the heart or the mind in eagerly wanting to be accepted and avoiding the truth.

There are times that a minor symptom of illness shows from a conflict, unhappiness, stress, anger… that has become headache, backache, giddiness, sore… that many of us continue to walk as they tell themselves ‘I have no time to discover that, just a little while more, I will be O.K.’ They bear the discomfort as the discomfort is getting more and more serious to a major ‘dis-ease’. They do not think they need to change because this is their ‘principle’; this is their way of life. They do not realize that they have the choice to be at peace, calmness, happiness and positive. Even to some of them, the negative emotions are too overwhelming that they could not believe that there is always bright light at the end of the tunnel.

When the pain is getting worse, they seem awaken from an uncontrollable dream, or for some, have recognized and accepted it that they cannot remember on how they were originally without the pain. Then they start to blame the world that has been unfair to them and their painful stories have become their own identities.

We always feel comfortable when we are at a familiar environment or with little goodies ahead. What we do not realized is that the world is evolving very fast. Change is part of the essence of life as long as we are willing to let go of the floating device (control) and float with the current (surrender). That is to learn, to make the change and move forward. Everyone has to move, if not, pain will set in to push us if we keep avoiding it.

Now the choice is yours, either you welcome the change and float with the current, or be push by pain. We always be given a choice in life, don’t we?

My stinky dogs

I do not have a pet at home right now, but I remember I grew up in the house, which has a dog in the compound almost all the time. Of course, my parents always had a puppy to replace the one who had already passed on. Total about five dogs have been part of our family. When I was young, whenever we did not have a dog at home, I felt very insecure like having a hole in my heart or missing a part in the family.

Many of us know that dogs are man’s best friends and I would not deny that. Now I realized that ‘How could I not learn and practice what I have noticed about the common treat of my dogs?’

I remember every morning, before I stepped out of the house whether to school or work, I would inform my mum yet I never bid farewell to the pet (my dog of course, not the rats, lizards, ants, fish…) even s/he accompanied me to the gate of the house. S/he would watch me to walk till the end of the street then s/he would go back to the house. Please do not be mistaken, my dad found it already headache to motivate me to study hard when I was young needless to say, to send the dog to a training school. So all my dogs were uneducated too. Worse still, I am educated and yet I did not know on how to give love and communicate with my dogs in their language/way.

No matter how late I came home, my youngest sibling (my dog) would run to the gate to welcome me by his/her overly friendly behavior, which I thought the kisses and hugs that they gave actually dirty my clothes with unpleasant smell. And I have forgotten that I was ugly, stinky, negative and unappreciative too. In side my heart, I knew that s/he wanted so much attention from me. In contrast, I refused to pay them the attention as I felt the division between us with my ego mind.

I would not say my ‘human’ family was treating our adopted child (our dogs) nicely, we gave them left over food as their dinner, cold floor and wet grass in the compound as their home, cars as shelter when they sleep, rain water as their liquid in take, and most importantly, we treated all our dogs like an invisible creature following us around the house. I hardly look at them in their eyes, stroke them as my good friend and appreciate them as my good company and security guard.

Little things that I failed to see in all my dogs were more ready to love offered and outstretch of kindness even they were away from their unknown family. They accepted gifts and healed from experience easily and effortlessly. They HAVE GREAT COURAGE WITH ABILITY TO DROP FEAR, and open their heart to ACCPET of what it is at PRESENT.

Though all of my dogs have already moved to North (heaven) for long. This is just a little thing that I could do now. Thank you for all the learning and courage that I have gained from all of you.

Thank you.