Brain Restructuring

Have you experienced feeling lost before?
Or rather you feel having low energy?
Sometimes you wonder why little thing can agitate you…
Maybe you experienced for a period of time, you just could not function as usual, even on the simple tasks that you were good at?

This is the time that no matter how much you struggle and force yourself to produce that kind of result, and yet it seems not as satisfying.

Why is this happening now?
Why it seems so unusual for you at this moment?
Why it seems not working on the area that you were very good at?

What is the matter to you?
What is brain restructuring?
Brain restructuring?
Is it like going through a major brain surgery?

We all live in life with a blueprint in us.
We are just holding the pieces of the blueprint to live in life, and yet we are not putting the pieces in place.
Thus, we go off track and on track often in life, as we do not know consciously where we are going and what we are doing.
When the learning is enough for us to accept the art of our blueprint, we started to have this ‘low energy period’, a transition period of what we called ‘Brain Restructuring’.

Brain restructuring is a period that you are putting your pieces back to the blueprint.
Yes, this is the time you find yourself progressing and regressing at the same time.
Progressing in the inner world whether or not you aware of the changes in side, the nature have taken place to put back the pieces according to the blueprint.
Regressing is the feeling that you consciously feel that you are not functioning as before, you feel agitate, low energy, uncertainty, out of control, incompetent,… it is an uncomfortable feeling.
This is an important period to stay patient with yourself as you may find that you have lead to new ways of doing almost everything in your life.
The old way does not work to you anymore, thus you may find it a struggle, challenge, chaos, tired, …

Why it called brain restructuring, because you are unlearning what you have learned and at the same time, learning new skill to move ahead in life.
Be patient, as everything will work through you naturally. You are not required to force learning as long as you follow your compass at your heart.

You are not much different from a newborn baby. The only difference is you are unlearning from your conscious mind and operate more on the unconscious mind, which is the opposite from a newborn baby.

People around you may not understand. You just not like before and your ego mind keeps distracting you not to follow your heart. However, the more you control, the more unpleasant you may experience.

The confusion and conflict between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind thus, feeling lost.

When you try to control and swim against the current, thus the low energy.

The resistant to change thus, feeling uncertainty.

The inner world calling out for helps thus, the agitation.

You feel uncomfortable because consciously you feel that you are not as competent as before. Some may think that their age catching up, experiencing depression or mid life crisis. It is because the ‘old’ way does not work or produce that kind of result any more. They feel that they ‘need’ to look for an answer externally and try to control and work the way as before.

The more that they control, the more they are out of control…

The length of the brain-restructuring period is depending on how patient and relax you are. As the work of restructuring the inner world come naturally through you. You just need to be relax and patient. Most importantly, follow your heart as your compass. By doing so, the answer or the truth unfolding to you slowly. Therefore, the more patient and relax you are, the shorter the period of the transition.

Alternatively to have a smoother transition, you can do meditation or spend time alone to let the inner world settle from the cloudy sky.

Why? Why? Why?

“Mummy, why the sky is so high?”
“Mummy, why do you need to go to work everyday?”
“Mummy, why the leaf is green but not in my favorite color, red?”

Children are the easiest bunch of little human who just accept what ever answers given to them…

They just accept as it is…

Never think that they do not have opinion, many of us do remember our childhood heartbreaks…. But we just accept it is as it is…we still love our parents dearly…

Children always have flexibility to adapt changes…

“Why don’t I get the chance to come back late?”
“Why can’t I hang out with my friends at this hour?”
“Why you do not believe me that it was not me who did this?”

When we reached our teen, some of us began to rebel…

We hurt ourselves or people around us in order to make the world to follow our way, our value, and our beliefs…

In the actual fact, we began to learn on how to live our life in the way we want….
We unconsciously started to build the muscle of ‘only my way is the best way’….

As an adult, we continue to ask questions to find out more before we take action…. Asking ‘why’ and ‘how come’ have become our habit…

We forgotten to be flexible in life as to accept what it is it is when we were kids….

We keep the ‘my way is the best way’ in us as precious and resist to let go…unconsciously, resistance to change…

When we resist to change while the whole world is changing fast without mercy, we create even more ‘why’ questions….

The ‘why’ that we do not get a satisfying answer in return…

Why?
Why is it that life is such a way?
Why is this happening to affect my way of living?
Why it takes so long for me to go through the uncertainty?
Why? Why? Why?

The ‘why’ arrive with seeking for answer… and we are lost…

However, seekers always hope to see the one, true, final answer (infinite Intelligence) that will settle all doubts,… but instead we hunt for clue.

We missed the true simple answer by not believing that it is that simple…

We missed the true simple answer by distracting ourselves with external activities…

We missed the true simple answer by fooling ourselves that ‘can’t be true’ by asking more ‘why’…

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Why are you still holding on?
You have tried so many ways, aren’t you feel tired?
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Just do this…
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Let go both of your hands and keep walking…
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Be brave to trust and accept it is as it is…
Live IN life as a child…
Be flexible to accept the changes…
Life is just that simple…
Soon you will find that you have the key to unlock the ‘why’ in life…
Because the answer is all within YOU…. unfolding while you walk…

Lost Identity

Why there are times we feel lost?
Why there are times we have achieved great result in life and yet we still seek for happiness?
Why we seem cannot enjoy the happiness of what others deem that we have?

For so long that we have been told to do things that have guideline laid out for us to follow. You just have to diligently work on it, follow the rule and regulation to produce result. Day and night, 24 by 7, you live through life carefully to learn, just waiting for that one day you will find your true happiness.

You could be building a career, seeking for true love or for great knowledge… you just do what you need to do in order to reach your dream.

It is just like nurturing your child to be a great man who would contribute to the society and make you feel proud….

Or it could be like building your muscles to have that great strength to carry the weight one day….

Or sitting in the cell of prison to learn what ever is given in order to live a new meaningful life after you term expired….

You have been working so hard for so many years…

One day, you found your child has grown up and left home. You need not care for him that much any more….

You have built enough strength to carry the weight that is needed….

Your term has expired, it is time for you to release from the cell….

You feel lost because you are no longer required to do the same thing anymore….

You are searching for your identity…. Your lost identity….

Living your own life in your own pace without needed to care for the daily three meals of your child….

Letting go of the weight that has required you to sustain your muscle in the past….

Throwing away the habit of follow the rules to report every movement and progress you made in prison….

Suddenly it is hard for you to adapt to go free and out of your restriction that you have set up by yourself….

You may find similar situation when the school children ‘temporary’ feeling lost during a long school break…. or one who just retired from work.

How do we find our lost identity?
How do we adapt the new way of life?
How do we do in order to adapt changes in life?
How do we let go of the resistance to change so that we would not feel lost again?

Remember the time when you were lost on the first day of work in a new office?
You did not know where to get your things in order to do your work.
If you were to keep holding on the struggle to stay in control and comparing to the old company structure, you would end up miserably missing the old office that you used to work at and not enjoying at present.

Rather, you move ahead to learn to enjoy working in the new office by adapting to what is given to you…


To find your identity…
Let go of the control and start living in the flow of life…
Make changes accordingly by listening to your heart…
Be flexible to adapt new ideas even if you wanted to take pleasure in being a couch potato for one whole month…
Be patient to yourself, you will soon realize you are actually unwrapping your gift to live in your new life….

Appreciation brings in Inspiration

Have you met someone who is so passionate at his/her work?

Have you met someone who is so alive and creative at work?



I have met a few, and recently I worked with a gentleman who is so inspired at work and managed every single detail creatively. He is like an energizer in the team and stands out brightly. His sincere laughter and teaching leaves a strong image in me. I was overwhelmed by his behavior at first, then realized there is so much to learn from him after understanding him.



Curiosity brought me to ask him some questions about the reasons that drive him to work with so much passion. He said ‘I really appreciate everything that I have and especially this job.’ The answer came so simple...



We all know what appreciation is. Many times it is much easier for us to say it then to really feel it, as we always want for more.



Appreciation is when we feel thankful even we were offered half full cup of coke when we are thirsty, a few quiet months in business is an opportunity to seek for alternative, a forgetful partner is to add up spice in our learning, or we are not good enough in a subject will lead us to a new passion.



When we appreciate of what we have, we begin to become creative. Instead of keep thinking what resources or luck is not given enough, we make full use of what we have to produce inspiring excellent result.



Inspiration is always come from the starting point of appreciation. When we put our focus solely on comparing and competing of what we are lacking, there is always no way out for producing an inspiring result. However, when we appreciate of what we have, we started to be flexible and creative.



In one of the Presupposition of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming):



‘People have all the resources they need to succeed and to

achieve their desired outcomes. (They are no unresourceful

people, only unresourceful states.)’



It means we have everything, all the resources that we need to be successful and to achieve our desired outcomes. There is no such thing as we are lack of resources, but only we are lack of the appropriate state of mind.



‘Anything is possible’ by Dr. Tad James

Start appreciating of what we have and inspiration will follow.

Choice without a choice

I have been wondering… many of us are aware too… we chose everything happen in life. I mean every situations, circumstances, lessons,…. before we came to this world. And we say, ‘we always have choice in life’….

However, how many of us are really, truly could remember of what we have choose before we came here? Beside all the dejavu, feeling on track,…. and that’s when we have already walked through at present in order to realize that.

Well, if we really could remember everything that we chose before hand, life would not be as interesting. Just like we watch the same old movie again…

Since young, we were told that we would be a happier person if we were in control with more choices…
We have planted the seed of the idea of ‘controlling’ life. That means once we are in control, we feel that we have a choice. We rushed to finish our homework, so that we could enjoy in various way after work. We made sure we did well, so that we can have more choices in the courses that we want to do or increase the chances with better universities to enter….

We told ourselves that we would be a happier person if we were in control with more choices…
In the contrary, every phase that we go through, we limit our choice… by…
We thought we would be happy once we work in a well-established company…
Then, we thought we would be even happier if we married to our dream partner who fulfilled our pre listed quality.…
Later, we thought we would have even more joy if we had lovely children…
When the kids go to school, we thought we would be even much more delight in having kids who score 100% every year in all areas…

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You may say we ‘must’ have progress in life… and everything is in our hands and we are always in control… with choice

Have you noticed that the more you want to control, the more the situation is out of control?
Many of us are chasing after the choice that we thought we are in control…

If everything is in our hand and we are in control, there would not be ‘mid life crisis’ or depression happen to those highly educated, born with a silver spoon or someone with highly respectable professional job…

We know that everything is unfolding before us. The universe has planned everything for us whether we believe in it or not…

When we are holding on to our ‘controlling’, that is ‘trying’ to be certain in how things happen to us in the future and creating more limiting boxes to ourselves. E.g. do you enjoy watching a predictable happy ending movie? Or you rather allow yourself to accept what’s come next even you know that the main character would have happy ending?

Once we are building up resistance in life… and we want to take over the job and make god unemployed like what Funny Chuck and Feminine Lency have mentioned.

But, many times, we are out of control.

What do we do?

What do we do now?

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In one of the presuppositions of NLP:
‘Flexibility in Behavior Controls the System’.

Stay true to yourself and communicate with your heart by feeling it every moment. You heart always leads you to the truth in life. Let go of ‘trying to be in control’ of what is the most right thing to do, and just accept whatever comes into our life…
We can start to do with something small. We do not need to explain or give any reason why we want to do what we do…

When feeling like going to beach, then just ‘choose’ to go to the beach…

When wanting to give our love ones a hug, then just ‘choose’ to give him/her a hug…

Let go of all the conscious talking and surrender in all that is… even a well-paid lawyer can be inspired to choose to be an excellent joyful art teacher…

A choice without a choice…

Do we really have a choice in life?

It does not really matter any more…

Just let the streams carries you and live ‘IN’ life…

Phew! I finally feel more of myself now…