Choice without a choice

I have been wondering… many of us are aware too… we chose everything happen in life. I mean every situations, circumstances, lessons,…. before we came to this world. And we say, ‘we always have choice in life’….

However, how many of us are really, truly could remember of what we have choose before we came here? Beside all the dejavu, feeling on track,…. and that’s when we have already walked through at present in order to realize that.

Well, if we really could remember everything that we chose before hand, life would not be as interesting. Just like we watch the same old movie again…

Since young, we were told that we would be a happier person if we were in control with more choices…
We have planted the seed of the idea of ‘controlling’ life. That means once we are in control, we feel that we have a choice. We rushed to finish our homework, so that we could enjoy in various way after work. We made sure we did well, so that we can have more choices in the courses that we want to do or increase the chances with better universities to enter….

We told ourselves that we would be a happier person if we were in control with more choices…
In the contrary, every phase that we go through, we limit our choice… by…
We thought we would be happy once we work in a well-established company…
Then, we thought we would be even happier if we married to our dream partner who fulfilled our pre listed quality.…
Later, we thought we would have even more joy if we had lovely children…
When the kids go to school, we thought we would be even much more delight in having kids who score 100% every year in all areas…

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You may say we ‘must’ have progress in life… and everything is in our hands and we are always in control… with choice

Have you noticed that the more you want to control, the more the situation is out of control?
Many of us are chasing after the choice that we thought we are in control…

If everything is in our hand and we are in control, there would not be ‘mid life crisis’ or depression happen to those highly educated, born with a silver spoon or someone with highly respectable professional job…

We know that everything is unfolding before us. The universe has planned everything for us whether we believe in it or not…

When we are holding on to our ‘controlling’, that is ‘trying’ to be certain in how things happen to us in the future and creating more limiting boxes to ourselves. E.g. do you enjoy watching a predictable happy ending movie? Or you rather allow yourself to accept what’s come next even you know that the main character would have happy ending?

Once we are building up resistance in life… and we want to take over the job and make god unemployed like what Funny Chuck and Feminine Lency have mentioned.

But, many times, we are out of control.

What do we do?

What do we do now?

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In one of the presuppositions of NLP:
‘Flexibility in Behavior Controls the System’.

Stay true to yourself and communicate with your heart by feeling it every moment. You heart always leads you to the truth in life. Let go of ‘trying to be in control’ of what is the most right thing to do, and just accept whatever comes into our life…
We can start to do with something small. We do not need to explain or give any reason why we want to do what we do…

When feeling like going to beach, then just ‘choose’ to go to the beach…

When wanting to give our love ones a hug, then just ‘choose’ to give him/her a hug…

Let go of all the conscious talking and surrender in all that is… even a well-paid lawyer can be inspired to choose to be an excellent joyful art teacher…

A choice without a choice…

Do we really have a choice in life?

It does not really matter any more…

Just let the streams carries you and live ‘IN’ life…

Phew! I finally feel more of myself now…