Live Without Wearing A Mask

Years ago, when I was so stressed about how I am going to start to do things that I enjoy doing, that is to help people to improve life. A friend of mine in London told me ‘Allow others to help you, so that you can help ten other people when you can stand up on your own feet. Hope that five out of the ten people that you have helped can help others. This is how it goes…’

Being a super independent person, I have set up the rule that I would not allow others to help me. If I accept others’ help, that shows I am weak…. Poor ten other people have to find someone else….not from me, as long as I am still wearing my mask to hide my unhappiness and stress.

We know that we will fall sick if we experienced prolong stress and unhappiness. Some stories could go like this… ‘He has got cancer, because he has been working so hard and not appreciated at home…’ or ‘Of course la! She has been tolerating the conflict and stress…’

Don’t you think we can avoid all these ‘of course…’ and ‘because…’ to ‘dis-ease’?

Have you seen some of us smoke through out the life, and yet very healthy and die at old age?

Have you seen some of us stay very healthy, it could be out of our imagination that the person would have diagnosed with disease at a very young age?

Yes, some of us believe that is Karma or any other explanation.

To me it is not the case.

How true in our belief system is base on how much we believe in it. In Malaysia, as a multi racial country, our belief system in every family in the neighborhood can be very diverse.

One can believe in receiving the miracle of Jesus and the other can receive the blessing from the Allah. Even if it was not base on religion, some believe it is not good to cut our nail when it is at night. Well, anything is possible!

Disease could happen when one is suppressing the conflict within by not being self in the self-created boxes. Most of the time, when one putting on masks to be a ‘socially acceptable person’ or ‘being nice’….and from ‘should’ or ‘should not’ or having a firmed right or wrong in the self built boundaries.

Being consciously or unconsciously to have made this decision ‘Not nice to leave work early, because I am a hard working person’, ‘I am a man, I will not ask my rich dad for help though I am in great debt.’, ‘I am the lady of the house, I should take care of all the household even though I am really, really stressed out’…

Unconscious mind started to give signals by creating awareness to the person with stiff shoulders, weak body, injuries, signs and even feeling of irritation.

Irritation steps in by having people around most of the time. E.g. an indecisive mum could be pushed around by the people with her. She just feels that she can’t offend people and thus, not being self by not voicing out what she wants or firmed with her decision.

As time slowly goes by, accumulated with stress by self and people around the person.…‘Dis-ease’ formed.

Remember, some rules are meant to be broken…

By having reasonable amount of help by others and being self can actually improve health and life.

It is just like my friend said ‘Just allow others to give you a push…’ and being self and admit that you really need help. It is not being weak, but allowing others to have the opportunity to be capable to help you too.

This friend of mine has donated for the voluntary trips that I have organized to Laos, Indonesia and India, and helped numerous of children to have opportunity to go back to schools and gave comfort to the street kids too.

Thank you my friend. You have made me aware of my capability just by BEING SELF & LIVE WITHOUT A MASK….