We are all excellent Movie Stars!!

After years of indulging into psychology and spirituality, I finally have learned one thing – our state and emotion affect our capability and performance.

I sometimes enjoy watching soccer and it is always unpredictable!! A team may lose badly during the first half of the game. The most respectable attitude is that the team can maintain the up beat spirit to have won the second half of the game. Thus, no matter what happen a moment ago, they can drop fear and failure immediately to move forward to achieve their dream and passion.

But then how? How do we always maintain that kind of ‘never say die’ spirit? How do we overcome failure and turn it around into excellence immediately?

This is like how a famous celebrity can make you cry in the movie even though you knew it is not real? How do they fight in the movie that have stirred your emotion for hours? How? How an award-winning star can be so influential that you could associate him as a mafia? Or a romance idol? How to do that? What we can learn from them?

Many of us have forgotten that we could bring up the state that we want at anytime. It can be as easy as bring back a sweet memory when you face a challenge or to behave like someone when it is needed.

Remember the time when we were still playing dolls, princess, or cooking in the kitchen? Or play soldiers in the war for boys, Star Wars, Transformer, Astro Boy…? We were so good at it that we could simulate almost everything from making the sound, the way we walk, the way we talk, the way we behave, …. The more we played, the more creative we were at being in the state of the character. At that time, we could even bring back the positive emotion instantly! We could fell down laughing for no reason!!

We enjoyed that, didn’t we? We did pretty well, didn’t we? What happen to us now? Forgotten on the how to become a movie star? Forgotten on how to laugh over silly things that we did? Hahaha……

In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), we learn:
‘There is no unresouceful people, there is only unresourceful state’

It is still a choice!

There are times we knew in side, there is a decision to be made for a change. Yet we still drag the issue along while we walk. It could be the doubt not significant enough for us to make the change, yet the ‘doubt’ keeps coming into our quiet mind. It is just like months before the wedding day. There are a few who have this doubt that they may not have made the right decision. However, the calling of wanting to meet expectations pressing in as though it is a self inflicted conflict. And with the fear of ‘loosing out’ and ‘being alone’ stepping in to haunt especially during festive seasons.

To some it is just a minor dilemma, whether to follow the heart or the mind in eagerly wanting to be accepted and avoiding the truth.

There are times that a minor symptom of illness shows from a conflict, unhappiness, stress, anger… that has become headache, backache, giddiness, sore… that many of us continue to walk as they tell themselves ‘I have no time to discover that, just a little while more, I will be O.K.’ They bear the discomfort as the discomfort is getting more and more serious to a major ‘dis-ease’. They do not think they need to change because this is their ‘principle’; this is their way of life. They do not realize that they have the choice to be at peace, calmness, happiness and positive. Even to some of them, the negative emotions are too overwhelming that they could not believe that there is always bright light at the end of the tunnel.

When the pain is getting worse, they seem awaken from an uncontrollable dream, or for some, have recognized and accepted it that they cannot remember on how they were originally without the pain. Then they start to blame the world that has been unfair to them and their painful stories have become their own identities.

We always feel comfortable when we are at a familiar environment or with little goodies ahead. What we do not realized is that the world is evolving very fast. Change is part of the essence of life as long as we are willing to let go of the floating device (control) and float with the current (surrender). That is to learn, to make the change and move forward. Everyone has to move, if not, pain will set in to push us if we keep avoiding it.

Now the choice is yours, either you welcome the change and float with the current, or be push by pain. We always be given a choice in life, don’t we?

My stinky dogs

I do not have a pet at home right now, but I remember I grew up in the house, which has a dog in the compound almost all the time. Of course, my parents always had a puppy to replace the one who had already passed on. Total about five dogs have been part of our family. When I was young, whenever we did not have a dog at home, I felt very insecure like having a hole in my heart or missing a part in the family.

Many of us know that dogs are man’s best friends and I would not deny that. Now I realized that ‘How could I not learn and practice what I have noticed about the common treat of my dogs?’

I remember every morning, before I stepped out of the house whether to school or work, I would inform my mum yet I never bid farewell to the pet (my dog of course, not the rats, lizards, ants, fish…) even s/he accompanied me to the gate of the house. S/he would watch me to walk till the end of the street then s/he would go back to the house. Please do not be mistaken, my dad found it already headache to motivate me to study hard when I was young needless to say, to send the dog to a training school. So all my dogs were uneducated too. Worse still, I am educated and yet I did not know on how to give love and communicate with my dogs in their language/way.

No matter how late I came home, my youngest sibling (my dog) would run to the gate to welcome me by his/her overly friendly behavior, which I thought the kisses and hugs that they gave actually dirty my clothes with unpleasant smell. And I have forgotten that I was ugly, stinky, negative and unappreciative too. In side my heart, I knew that s/he wanted so much attention from me. In contrast, I refused to pay them the attention as I felt the division between us with my ego mind.

I would not say my ‘human’ family was treating our adopted child (our dogs) nicely, we gave them left over food as their dinner, cold floor and wet grass in the compound as their home, cars as shelter when they sleep, rain water as their liquid in take, and most importantly, we treated all our dogs like an invisible creature following us around the house. I hardly look at them in their eyes, stroke them as my good friend and appreciate them as my good company and security guard.

Little things that I failed to see in all my dogs were more ready to love offered and outstretch of kindness even they were away from their unknown family. They accepted gifts and healed from experience easily and effortlessly. They HAVE GREAT COURAGE WITH ABILITY TO DROP FEAR, and open their heart to ACCPET of what it is at PRESENT.

Though all of my dogs have already moved to North (heaven) for long. This is just a little thing that I could do now. Thank you for all the learning and courage that I have gained from all of you.

Thank you.

What can I do now…?

Many friends asked, is there a way to avoid having all the negativities in life? Is there a way that we can have the only positives in life? Some of them seem hopeless, some seek alternatives, some wounded badly from life….

We keep chasing after to have a perfect living and we think we would be happy when we are living in this ‘perfect’ life. We avoid things that are unpleasant along the journey; we carefully make the decisions that with higher chance to be successful. Yet, there are times that we still fail to predict the future accurately.

Remember that your unconscious mind works on the least effort to achieve your goals. Humps and bumps in life help us to learn to get up and stay up strong. Some too attentive parents are still overly protecting their children to avoid the falls, which the children would not learn on how to stand up by themselves.

In life it is not so much about failing and falling, it is about how to seek opportunities during the down side of your life. It is because we can never stop our love ones leaving us at their old age or little discomfort along the journey like making the wrong decisions, thefts, separations,…

Yes, you may say that ‘the law of attraction’ is the answer to get the positives only. Yes, you may see people who were born with abundance and among some are lucky in their life, yet you forget to focus on how they keep their spirit up to have faith in themselves that they BELIEVING IS SEEING. Thus, they focus SELF, focus the OBJECTIVES and DRIVE through it. That is how they gain positives with lesser falling.

Whereas, many of us still need proof and wanting that ‘seeing is believing’. The missing essence are, they focus on avoiding humps and bumps, distractions by the past failing stories, and aiming only the perfect future that they have forgotten about what they can do now.

The journey to seek true happiness, success and love in life is to stay positive, treat every falling as an opportunity to learn, to get up by finding the solution with the question of:

WHAT CAN I DO NOW IN ORDER TO MAKE IT BETTER?

Thinking XV

There are some of us who are always at peace and evolve fast ……

They are those who accept all there is …… understand that they are part of the ONE as everything in the universe…….

They accept all the positives and the negatives in life, and go through them patiently………

They, most of the time, are loner and they focus what they want to do…….. by going with the flow ……

Others may perceive them as uncanny, selfish or boring…….

They are just who they are and accept all there is ………

They are the observers as they understand they have to leave others to walk their path ……. Instead of carrying them during their turbulence ……. That is to allow others to realize to be independent and aware that they are more than who they think they are …..

They understand and respect others who have DECIDED to experience what they want to experience, and learn what they need to learn …..

Most of the time they are the messengers when it is necessary to give pointers to those who seek ….. about life as they are those who DECIDED to evolve…. They share ….. about what they know ……………..

As they understand and accept that ….. all and everything is ONE ….. that is what within us ……..

That is WHO AM I ………

That’s right …..

That’s right …………..

Thinking XIV

Life consists of the positive and the negative ……..

It is where we are now …… the imperfection that is perfect…

We came from perfection, now at imperfection (that is perfect)… moving to perfection …

Human being human … if everything is perfect …… they will find life is boring ….. and look for excitement …………

Hmmm… Not true. We always ‘seek’ perfect and peaceful life.

Some of us (seems like) have everything, they tend to look for ‘higher’ excitement like taking drugs, indulge in violent games, watching drama series, adultery, alcohol, gambling,… that is just life is too peaceful …… they want to stir their emotion intentionally…….. as they say, to make life more colorful…… They named those loners as ‘boring’ or anti-social…

Those are the activities that we enjoy doing, like you said there is no such thing as good or bad.

Yes, you learn well…. Very well……..

When a person looking for ways to dissociate himself, that is when he tends to forget who he is ……. That is WHO AM I …….

When a person is experiencing a trauma, he starts to ponder about life, evolve more if the person DECIDED to….

Aren’t they anyone who are peaceful and yet evolving fast?

Yes, they are such people ………..

Thinking XIII

That’s right ………

That’s right …………..

We access the past or the future when it is necessary…….. not clinging on it…….

Like looking for things that we are searching for…… we access the past …….

When we make appointment, …… we access the future to see whether we are available ………….

The present is all we have and soon the present moment has become the past …..

Past has already written in us, we could not change the past …….

But we hold the key at present for the future …..

The future is unknown to us. How the future will shape, that’s depend on how we treat the present that we have ……. right now

That makes sense.

Sometimes the emotion is just over whelming. Like I always feel that I am not good enough. If someone were to ask me to give a speech, I would become very conscious about how do I look, my movement, my language, …. I would feel myself of being silly and if I have a choice, I would not do it.

You feel that way because you are not focusing at the present moment ……. And you are not living at present as you are escaping life……..

Life is about having the balance of the positive and the negative. If you keep avoiding the negative, you are avoiding life….. and you will find that you would not learn as fast …… evolve as fast…..

Go through every single moment, whether it is good or bad, you will find yourself much more than who you are ……..

Stay focus at present moment, which does not hold the negativity, therefore, you will find yourself doing things at ease ……..

Why is it life consists of both positive and negative? Aren’t we always wanted only the positive?

That’s right ……

That’s right …………..

Thinking XII

Some of us are living in the past as they keep the past alive by talking about it frequently……

They miss the bad or good about the past and they feel what they have in the moment or even future are not as important……..

A person used to be happy, due to lost of love one, they could not function well at this moment … just miss the past, miss the person, …………….

Or it can be a negative experience like abusive parents at home ……. that have made them weak in side……

They keep living the past that they could not think that they deserve to be a stronger them…….. to be who they want to be or do what they want to do …………….

Yea, I used to be like that. I understand.

Whereas, some of us, live in the future ………………..

They keep thinking what would make them happy and resenting the present…. a million dollars richer,….. or the other half,…… or children come back to live with them,….. or if their children have become independent,……..

They have forgotten to live at the present moment……

The present is the fuel of life, the only thing that we have as a ‘gift’, therefore, it is called ‘present …….

Aren’t we need to set goals and objectives in life?

That’s right ……

That’s right ………………..



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Thinking XI

That’s right…..

Trust yourself….. you have all the answers within….

Trust myself, I do trust myself.

Most human do not trust themselves…..

What do you mean? Of course we do.

Many of us do not believe that we are healthy, therefore, obsessively popping supplement like eating popcorn ………

Some of us are to the extreme that they go for medical check up frequently to find flaws in the body. As if they are expecting an illness …….

Remember, all of our prayers are answered …………

If you think that you cannot find a partner, you cannot find one ………. If you think that you are poor, the answer is, you are poor ……..

All these thoughts are a sum of vibration. The vibration (of your thoughts) will match and attract what there is …………

It is just like depressed people will normally hang around with friends who are depressing. They feel that they understand each other, that is the vibration match that we talk about ………….

Some places, they build bigger hospitals, prisons, … Of course, they expect and will filled up these buildings with people ……..

That is because we prepare in advance, so that we can be at ease when we have a circumstance.

Have you ever experienced that no matter how much you are sure and prepared for the worst, you did not do well and expect the outcome as it is when it comes?

And have you experienced that you just stay at present and you perform extremely well?

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Thinking X

There is no right or wrong, up or down, right or left…. Of everything….

What do you mean by no right or wrong? Aren’t we suppose to punish those who have done wrong?

What you see is only from the perspective of a human. If a person has done something wrongfully, s/he has to repeat the drama until the lesson learned. The nature will take place for what the person has to learn. It is because everything that we do is to evolve, to know ourselves, to go home… that is to learn from who we are not to become who we are ……

You see, there are always lessons behind all the major events. Some of us like to escape hardship or avoid learning lessons. You will find that in the history which repeated by itself when the lessons not learned ….

It seems like we are living in this huge classroom and playground…

Yes, we are. This is how we learn……

To be separated, … only to learn that we are ONE. Without the distinction, we would not know that we are ONE …

When we are on earth, we look at the sky is upward ………... However, when we are in a plane, we look down on the ground. Therefore, there is no up or down, left or right,… of everything …………….

It is also only one color, which is white, to make up a colorful rainbow, ……

But the how do you explain that some of us on earth are so poor and some of us are so wealthy? Or differences in appearance, fitness, race, nationality, ….

All of us were born in the physical world to learned WHO WE ARE by having different experiences in the position with events, circumstances, situations … by our age, era, gender, race, nationality, ….

Really? Is that right?

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