Stop Judging

One of my dear sisters whom now adopted a new hobby, that is to read. She now tells me how much she enjoy reading and how romance novels help her to improve certain areas in her life. Some of us may think that ‘Romance novel?? Self improvement??’ We tend to have a certain judgment that what is proper or not proper information to feed in our brain. Well, I would say, again, ‘Go with the flow because your unconscious mind knows everything and leads you to home.’

 

Think back when I was operating much on the conscious mind years ago. I forced feeding my brain by reading politics, business and finance material. I thought I would have opportunity to become someone ‘big’ by reading those reading material, but deep down in side my heart, I did not enjoy reading all those stuff and it was kind of stressful to understand them at the beginning.

 

Then when a huge incident happened years ago, I was sick of reading prolong, never ending threatening world news. I totally stopped reading for a while and then slowly I changed my direction in spending my time in helping others and work on other hobbies. At the same time, I was reading biographies and some other generally knowledge stuff. I took years and finally, I found out what I should do in order to help others effectively and become who I am today.

 

When I first feel like writing these essays to share, everything comes in handy. The first few times, I hypnotized myself (I am a Master Practitioner of Hypnotherapy) to use my unconscious mind to write. Then slowly, unknowingly the writing habit has already implanted in me and comes naturally. I have conquered the lack of confidence in my language and content in my writing after years of reading and life experience.

 

Hey, you too, can do great things of your dream. What makes me different from you? Aren’t you realize all of us are the same? Just follow your heart, go with the flow and learn with open heart without judgment.

 

 

Even if you attended the same lesson a hundred times, you will still learn something new….. IF ONLY YOU PAY ATTENTION.

 

 

Understanding Self

‘No man is free who is not a master of himself’

Robin S. Sharma

 

 

Whether consciously or unconsciously, people around you are your teachers. You choose your parents, race, gender, goals to achieve, lessons to learn,… before you come into this world.

 

Consistently taking time to learn and understand yourself is far more powerful than seeking emotional support from others. A good leader knows how to lead self so that can lead a team successfully. A good spiritual teacher has the quality of patience and conflict free within, in order to pass superiority messages to her/his students. An excellent parent set good example with courage, morality and motivation that s/he wants the children to benefit from.

 

Value is something about what you believe. It is about how you spend your time, but it is not necessarily something that you enjoy doing. E.g. some of you may find you are in a position that you are needed to attend in family matters and it is like sacrifices and obligation. Furthermore, it is against your will of practicing ‘follow your heart’.

 

We grow from experiences and evolve through knowing self from all of our teachers. I learned a splendid statement from an international trainer/speaker, Dr. Billy Kueek that ‘we always judge others by their actions but not their intentions. And we always judge ourselves by our intentions but not our actions’ I find it is very true and that is most part of the reason why we misunderstood each other among the human race.

 

Please leave behind your judgment of others’ actions and focus of their good intentions. Omit the behavior and pay attention to their spirit (unconscious mind) that would lead you to reach the messages for lessons to learn to apprehend self better each time. The more you are open to understand and love yourself, you will find that you are doing things with love and passion. Fear, sacrifice, obligation, should,… heavyhearted words are no longer in your dictionary.

 

Again, to fasten the process of understand ‘Who am I?’ is through meditation.  

 

 

Time

What is time? What is time do to you? What is the meaning of time?

 

While you are thinking that you are living your life fully, you worked hard to be one of the best in class, work in a big firm and now in a high position and make sure you have enough in order to have a better life early. Come to old age, seems everything is catching up especially inflation; you make sure you make more before you retire. After retirement, you better be thrifty because you don’t make as much as before…

 

In your daily activities, you ensure that you do not turn up late for work, appointment, lunch break,… rush home so that we have more time to relax, complete errands so that we can have peace of mind, go to bed early in order to have a good rest,…

 

Everyday we are competing with time. You understand that you cannot turn back the time and you say that time is very precious. You see others who seems having better life than you, you better work hard so that you do not fall behind. You are tensed and wish that you had 48 hours a day…

 

Slowly and unknowingly, you have become the slave of time. You feel like you have to keep up with time especially living in a city. Your mind has been programmed to have a queue with tasks instead of LOVE. Do you remember when was the last time you give your love one a good deep hug rather than a motion hug? Have you noticed the trees on the roadside actually change? Have you really looked into the eyes of the person when you are talking to him/her? When was the last time you pause to watch the rain that shines in the ray of light and join its fellow when it touches the ground?

 

What is the hurry? Where are you going? You mean you will turn out bad if spending just a few minutes more at presence in all the daily activities?

 

Time is to measure what is in the past and future in the human life. You know that you will not compete all the errands in the entire lifetime at once; you also know that spending every second at present moment will not delay you for any appointment. Why not, why not,…hehehe… you know the answer within.

 

Feel your heart beat while you breath….

 

 

 

Learning

Willing to throw yourself into the unknown is the best way to learn new things. It is just like when we first going to kindergarten, most of us cried because of the fear of facing a total new environment. Then every phase that we went, we felt a mixture of excitement and uncomfortable in side and yet we knew we had to go through these phases in order to gain more knowledge and move forward. Now, it seems we are mature enough and very comfortable of where we are, and have a choice to choose not to proceed further to learn new way of doing things.

 

Friends and myself used to have this joke ‘When you find yourself resistant to change, there is when you are considered to be useless!’ Come to a shock that, many of us are heading toward this route of ‘resistant to change’ as early as in twenties!

 

When we meet people who are resistant to change at their old age, we find them not efficient at work while they are waiting for retirement. In contrast, there are people who always make themselves useful, progress and willing to adapt to learning new things, we call them master, guru, adviser, consultant…

 

People who always find themselves in the position of having opportunity to learn. That is also learn from the opposite, the traditional ways vs. the new / improved ways. They are willing to put themselves into the shoes of the new generation and guild them from where they were. Therefore, flexibility in behavior controls the system.

 

Let’s put down our age, rank and ego to learn from each other. Learning is never end, be it just play a piece of music, or seconds of reading the sky. Make every moment be a phase of learning self and life.

Happy learning!

Stop Analyzing

 

When we read a novel or watch a movie, we tend not to go to the end of the story to find out how does the story end. We enjoy the thrill of the stories’ contents. We also understand that, we will lose all the excitement by just having a glimpse of the end of the book / movie.

 

When it is come to our stories, we tend to be curios and eager to know what’s the next thing happen to us and how we will be ended up with. With that behavior leads to never stop analyzing and constantly predicting the ‘future’.

 

Most of the time, we end up with mind reading rather than acknowledged assumption. It steers to analyzing too much even with small little detail like ‘I have this sign, does that mean I will be….’. Well, something happen to me, may not necessarily happen to you the same way or in the similar scenario, because all of us are unique and with a different journey. If we know what’s the end of our stories, everything is occurring the way that is expected and we tend to use our ‘controlled’ system. Eventually, lost the sense of mystery of life. 

 

There are times that we are chasing the clarity of everything or event happens to us that draining huge amount of our energy. It is because we try to live in the future, and avoid the present moment and stillness within. You may or may not realize till a point in time you found yourself misspend your time on analyzing rather than smell the roses while you stroll.

 

Yes, the unconscious mind always giving us the hid of everything in life. It is normally for the small steps ahead; if we drilled / forced into it too much, it will become messages from the conscious mind (the controlled system) that some of the time involves ego or negative emotions being created.

 

Well, most of the major decisions are made based on the lack of full information provided. We always take one step at a time to move forward, to learn, to home. Therefore, let your path unfold naturally ahead of you with the guidance of your unconscious mind (follow your heart).

 

 

Learn from the opposite

Life is about taking opportunity to move forward regardless it is a pleasant or unpleasant situation. Normally, we feel that we do not learn anything when we are happy. It is because we ignore the gentle whispering from our unconscious mind and situations still under ‘control’.

 

When a circumstance seems unmanageable, we started to ‘blame’ or give ‘excuses’ to give ourselves credits that we were not prepared for. That is the ‘ego’ thingy playing in us and we should take care of our ‘face’.

 

All our prayers are always answered right in front of us. We sometimes oblivious to it and choose to have this ‘face’ thingy, that seems as our priority over the LOVE and EVOLVEMENT in life.

 

We must understand this, when we ask for wealth, our answers always give us the opportunity to be wealthy, not wealth itself. When we pray for patience, gives us not the patience, but the opportunity to be patient. Same thing, when we want to learn to forgive self and others, we always given opportunity to forgive and forget.

 

Therefore, it is the ‘opportunity’ that we tend to avoid. We want it to be just here for us to pick up and change in side. Well, it is that easy if we pay attention to every moment we have and be there 100% present and listen to your heart.

 

Some of us have unpleasant experience with ungrateful people around them. Then learn that what is not acceptable and create the wonderful opposite and appreciate the lessons learnt. It is because we learn from the opposite too as long as we are there 100% present. Like, when we are not happy, we learn that we want to be happy. When we face failure, we learn our mistake and to be successful. Like wise, we dislike ungrateful people, we learn to be grateful and what not to do, as we understand how the receiver feels like.

 

We do not need to feel an intense dislike of a person or situation, which it is harmful to self and people around. Let go the negative emotions as a huge barrier to joy and allow freedom comes to you so that we learn with smooth sail. Joy is always comes from within.

 

Some of us may find it hard to do the opposite to the person who s/he may want to avoid in contact. The way to do this is to stay present whenever you think of this person, which does not hold any negative emotion. Best still, send great amount of love to the person that eventually leads to forgiveness.

 

Please take every moment to be opportunity to learn and move forward. Love is all there is.

 

Energy

Energy is in everything, everywhere. Like some of us do energy healing without the aid of medication. Energy is a very intelligent thing; it will go the area that is needed in order for the sick person to recover. It can heal minor cut or sprain of a finger, to illnesses like fever, diarrheas,… It is basically integrating with your unconscious mind to do the healing together.

 

We experience energy in our daily activities. We are full of energy when we are happy, healthy and in any positive state e.g. in a concert, church… In contrast, we have less energy when we are at the negative state. Same as trees or wild flowers in the nature jungle, they are always with much more energy compare to those in the city. That is the reason why we feel much better when we spend some time in places filled with living plants.

 

Small children take energy solely from their parents. In the conscious mind, they feel that their parents are the super wo/man. Some of us already knew or psychologist will tell you that the girl will normally close to the father and the boy will close to the mother for learning. Well, the boy will be attracted to the feminine energy from the mother which he lack of and the girl wants more of the masculine energy and close to her father.

 

Until a certain age, they found out that their parents are just like any other man or woman out side the house. They start generate the energy from friends and the universe. Energy in the universe is more than enough for all of us and many of us are taking it very well.

 

When a person starts to fall in love, s/he cuts off the energy supply from the universe and start taking in from the new partner. The couple are addicted to each other’s energy and they feel that they cannot live without each other for long.

 

Sometimes it happen when a partner is more ‘sticky’ to the other partner, is because s/he totally cut off the energy from the universe and really in need the energy from the other party. This also occurs to a person who is very popular / attractive, s/he is usually with full of energy.

 

The issue is, when a person starts taking a lot of energy from the other party, the other party will find very tired due to the amount of energy giving out. It is just like children at home, they normally fight for more attention (energy) from the adults. Another example, some of us feel powerful and love to zap energy from the ‘weaker’ one; that we call ‘ego’.

 

Now that we understand how energy works and it also helps us to understand our relationships with people. Learn to use the energy from the universe by doing meditation, out door activities in the nature, stay centered and have a good flow by appreciating of everyone/thing around you be it love ones or stranger.

 

Happy Meditating