Remember to smile to yourself too...

When was the last time you spend some quiet time by yourself?

When was the last time, you listen to your own heartbeat in the silence?

When was the last time, you feel the vibration of your own pulse?

Day in day out, we busy fulfilling chores in order to achieve our goals. We seek answers externally by wondering what’s our partner have been thinking, reading newspapers to know what’s going on in the world, watching TV or playing computer games to stir our emotion, planning surprises for our love ones,….

Have you spent time by yourself lately?

Do you keep in touch with your inner self always?

In this modern society, we keep chasing after having latest technology to assist us to save time, yet it seems not the case. Today, Internet makes wonder. We could save lots of time from going to the bank, ticket booth, bookstore, … we can even keep in touch with love ones by making video call, checking email wherever we go, … and yet we always hear people saying ‘not enough time’, ‘no time for this or that’, ‘busy, busy, busy’. That means all the inventions do not help us to save time? Or we keep adding more tasks to ourselves? Or our expectations are increasing in order to save more time?

Expectation?

What is expectation?

Customers expect service providers treat them highly. The best is, the doors of the car would be open for them to get down once arrived at the mall, then push trolley for them to pick up items, and then help them to load bags into the car before they leave. The next day, you may find another mall is competing with having mist of perfume at the entrance for welcoming their shoppers and driving them by golf carts to shop.

Soon, you may find customers have become intolerant with a slight flaw of the service providers have made. On the other hand, service providers keep improving by adding more tasks, to meet the receiving end. The gap of separation has become greater and greater. Stresses occur when we doubt about our capability and expectations not met. We have forgotten that we originally came into this world for contribution (to make this world a better place to stay) by practicing interdependency and partnerships.

This scenario not only happen in a competitive business, it also happens in relationships. Conflicts of senior needed to be supremely respected and junior expected to be pampered in the office, or woman wants to be treated like princess and man wants to be treated like a king at home.

To stay competitive, we start training our children to behave ‘professionally’ to meet expectations since young. In adulthood, we spend so much time thinking of how others treating us and who have failed to meet our expectations, or we doubt about self-competency to meet others’ expectations…

Have we spent some time to understand on how we treat ourselves?

Have we given ourselves a good pat when we have done a good job?

When was the last time you listen to yourself?

When was the last time when you feel just yourself?

When was the last time, you look into the mirror and to your eyes to say ‘I love myself’?

Remember to smile to yourself too….